Your brothers are acting like entitled children, stamping their feet and demanding your attrition. NTA OP, but I wouldnt let them around your husband because they did endanger his life. I moved out and left them to take care of my younger brothers by themselves and went full no contact for years. I would go LC/NC with the lot of them. My question would be why the hell op allowed it to go this far without imposing consequences on her family. . Lets kill his dog to see if he burys his emotions like a real man! At what point during his asthma attack would they be able to tell if he was being soft or if it was real? She should at least have offered to find buyers for you. Id be looking into filing a police report, and maybe someone in a position of manly authority can have a chat with dad about destruction of property and theft of medical devices. Men are also entitled to show emotions and have a caring side. Dad is flat out saying he will never respect OPs husband. Are you American? Your family is fked up and ruined any real relationship themselves. I'm sure that if you let them back in, they're going to haze your fiance more. It's absolutely fucked! Your former lack of imposing boundaries is concerning and has led to this life threatening situation. They're immature little boys who believe they have to pretend to be tough so they don't get laughed at. To not breathing. We have too many damn words! tell your bf to call the cops and get them arrested for the tire slashing. Good lord, NTA!!! Hell, you might be the asshole if you don't press charges. On of my very adult colleagues is called "Timmy" by everyone, and if you call him "Tim" he'll (nicely) correct you. Most of us grow out of that around puberty, and those that don't absolutely deserve to feel the consequences of their poor choices because what excuse do they have? Would they be saying that to Tim's family if he had died of a fatal asthma attack because he didn't have access to his inhaler? He should have checked them a long time ago. This is curious that your siblings are not on your side . You can die from an asthma attack! Do not invite them to the wedding and time to go no contact. Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. Fuck that that's why I have AAA. I call this sort of thing radioactive stupidity. Tell them that your wedding is childfree and they can come when they grow up. ETA except Tim. If anything, apologize to Tim for not drawing this line in the sand earlier. If you dont draw a line in the sand their nasty toxic behaviour (so called pranks) will never end. Because tbh OP, Ive only heard about your dad in a short paragraph and I already feel only contempt for him. NTA. Will they do this to him?? NTA. NTA I have a large amount of male cousin I am female they joke but nothing like what you are describing. Your only punishment is not coming to the wedding? These guys are bullies. If you and Tim chance to have a son, dont let him anywhere near your male relatives. Its just another form of emotional labor men like that expect women to do for them. You don't need them at your wedding and honestly? I can verify that it is nearly impossible for anyone - even real men whatever tf that means - to remove, replace, properly align & balance an entire set of tires without at least a small shop lift. Is this the future you want? No, Tim: No, you wouldnt. NTA. REAL men's lips turn red like the blood of our poached kill!!". You're actually still nice in my opinion and your family members are AHs, including your mum to be honest! I remember when someone first suggested I was being emotionally abused, I thought they were being ridiculous. Nta. These are stupid and potentially life-threatening. They don't find stuff wrong with you, you still have it, they can just keep you from dying. That their opinions matter more to you than his. My parents pride themselves on being do-it-yourself. Holy fuck, your family is composed of toxic idiots. Having just recovered from an asthma attack a day ago, I can attest that asthma is no joke. These aren't "pranks" and what sort of fucking adult even "pranks" people anyway. The funniest is snipping valve stems. They are nothing but bullies. Now imagine your family pranking your new husband yet again on what should be a day celebrating the two of you. Slashing tires? They're the ones that have broken the trust. Study after study has shown that men presenting with the same symptoms as women are more likely to be listened to, taken seriously, and receive appropriate & timely medical care. Were I Tim Id be rethinking marrying you. Toxic masculinity at it's finest. NTA and also I think is healthy you take some space away from your familytheir idea of manliness is so backwards. Of course hes not going to tell you not to see your family anymore; that would be controlling and inappropriate. NTA but you're lucky that your fiance haven't left you yet. I said she could come and so could my brothers but I'm standing firm that my stepdad has to stay away. I'd hoped that was a ridiculous enough statement given the context to not need a /s but I guess it's not that far out of line from what these fuckbuckets actually think. to be honest, if I were your fianc Id reconsider marrying you if you didnt put your foot down here. He was abusive in every way but was a master manipulator. So, in theory my lung could open up more. NTA and it sounds like youre not gonna miss much with their absence at your wedding! I literally freaked out because I definately want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn, after talking to my fiance I had no choice but to politely uninvite my stepdad and sending him an email stating why. The family is lucky they haven't called for a restraining order. I've been there. They slashes his tires and you did what? They've shown who they are and they aren't going to change. This is not normal behavior. Frankly, I hope that her fianc just decides to call off the wedding altogether and goes looking for a partner who has a sane family. Id take this opportunity to get them out of your life permanently. That's some courage, at 22. OP How do you not see that these people are psychopaths?! And you are most definitely NTA. The recipient should be laughing just as hard as the prankster and any observers. Woah. I dont know where you are in the world OP, but where I live slashing someones tyres would be a criminal offence. Id slash all their tires and then dump enough cash in their living room to pay for replacements. He should know better. Would you want to put your child and your mental wellbeing through that? Buy wedding insurance first, add the cancellation policy, then cancel so lost deposits are covered by insurance wedsafe.com (am a wedding planner). And what happens when the relatives start to "test" and harass their kids? The man you want to marry has been shamed, had his property vandalized, been made uncomfortable, and his health, possibly life, endangered. Cut these toxic shits out of your life before they kill someone. You know their bullying will only get worse with you standing up for him. However you are a huge AH for letting it get this far. Sheesh.. As a registered nurse, all I can say is that is despicable and they could have potentially put his life in danger. I would consider reinviting anyone who actually apologizes to him, without your prompts. NTA but you allowed this to go on way too long. Nothing worse than telling a funny story and everyone goes quiet and looks sad at you. My fathers cousin among them, even if taken to hospital. NTA. NTA. Their pranks went from wildly inappropriate to outright dangerous. And to add, men who are testing his manliness are the exact kind of men that dont have a clue what it means to be a real man. Or your future hubby might. My husband races autocross, our tires are more expensive than I like to think. They all seem to think you wood be more concerned about what they think of your fianc than what he thinks of them. I feel like it is finally time to cut my dad off but idk AITA? I don't suppose they reimbursed him for the cost of replacing those tires? Would it still be as funny if they were arrested for manslaughter. You allowed it to get this far, far enough that YOUR family jeopardized the health of a man you claim to love. Organized bullying isn't funny or a prank. That's an asthma attack that could turn into a tragedy. They're committing pretty serious crimes against him and they belong in jail not at his fucking wedding. It absolutely doesn't ruin any joke I've ever come across to use a /s. (I was diagnosed at the urgent care with a failing galbladder. Youre NTA for uninviting them but you may be TA for letting your family take the disrespect are far as they have and then downplaying their actions. They are cruel people who have been bullying your fianc, these things are not pranks. They dont realize how much theyre fucking up and its scary. Hiding his medication as a prank is the lowest of the low. I bet they wouldn't laugh at any pranks that endangered their physical health. Your family sounds awful. These are not pranks. what if he needed his inhaler? I agree that OP never thought it was okay. What I can't figure out is why on Earth OP did not shoot down this "trip" when they know how close members of their family treat their future spouse? What happens when they want to start testing the manliness of a child and start with these pranks? Their little prank couldve cost your fianc his life. i cant blame OP because she is too young, she cant probably go no contact with them and the fiance would be in worse situations after the wedding. I would have cut them off after them slashing his tires already. Youre NTA but you will be if you force your future husband to be around them. My god. These are not funny pranks, these are "how much will you take?" Because that lifetime of stress kills us. They clearly dont respect you or your ability to choose a partner either. The truth is their pranks were expensive and hurtful - and nobody is laughing. Sounds like a bunch of dumb hicks bullying a city boy. Plugs are only good for punctures more then an inch or two away from the sides. Vandalisim at the very least? Congrats on your wedding and good luck! Im really fired up over this apparently. I would have left a long time ago. This could have escalated into something as harsh as attempted murder. 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